No one talks about the emotional weight of becoming the person you prayed to be.
We glorify the glow-up, the booked and busy life, the “she’s doing it” season—but what about the in between? The parts that feel like loss? The quiet moments when you realize that growth means leaving behind versions of yourself that once felt safe?
That’s the part no one prepares you for.
But if you’re walking through it right now… keep going. This is growth. And yes—it can feel like grief.
Why Growth Hurts More Than People Admit
When you start showing up differently, everything around you shifts:
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People fall off.
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Priorities change.
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Comfort fades.
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Old habits start to feel heavy.
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Your identity begins to stretch in uncomfortable ways.
And that’s when doubt creeps in. That’s when the fear of outgrowing people or places tries to pull you back.
But guess what? You’re not going backwards.
You’re breaking through.
3 Reasons You Feel This Way (and Why It’s Normal)
1. You’re Mourning the Old You
Even if the “old you” was stuck or small, she was familiar. She knew how to survive. She helped you make it this far. But now, you’re becoming someone your past self only dreamed of—and there’s no blueprint for that.
🌀 It’s okay to honor her. But it’s also okay to outgrow her.
2. Your Nervous System Doesn’t Recognize Peace Yet
Sometimes we mistake calm for boredom or discomfort. If you’re used to chaos, survival mode, or always being “on,” peace can feel unfamiliar.
💡 That’s not a red flag. That’s your nervous system learning safety.
3. You’re Learning How to Hold More
More responsibility. More visibility. More pressure. More blessings.
Growth teaches you how to receive—not just hustle. But receiving requires space, surrender, and trust. That’s scary. And that’s okay.
What I’ve Learned in This Season of Quiet Growth
In the last few months, I’ve cried, celebrated, questioned, and evolved. I’ve said “no” to things that once defined me. I’ve made decisions that felt uncomfortable but necessary. I’ve grown—and I’ve grieved.
But through it all, I’ve learned:
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You don’t have to announce every move.
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Softness is strength.
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Alignment > applause.
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Growth isn’t loud—it’s consistent.
If you’re in the middle of a quiet transition, this is your reminder that you are not behind. You are not failing. You are becoming.
Don’t Quit Right Before You Bloom
Growth can feel like grief—but it’s also proof that something beautiful is taking root. Don’t rush it. Don’t numb it. Don’t quit.
You are walking into a new season. And the woman on the other side? She’s stronger, softer, and more powerful than you ever imagined.
Hold on. Fall is almost here. 🌱